If You Want Someone Else To Change, Be Like the Sun
Tidying is naturally contagious, but if you try to force it on someone else, you’ll only be met with harsh resistance.” – Spark Joy by Marie Kondo
In Spark Joy by Marie Kondo, there is section about how to influence household members to be more tidy:
“Recall Aesop’s fable about the north wind and the sun: the wind failed to blow off the traveler’s coat while the sun got him to remove it simply by shining. It is far more effective to be like the sun.”
We can all point to a list of ways we would like the people around us to act differently from time to time. The nearest conversation will point out that everyone wants someone to be different in someway. It’s practically like breathing.
But what if the only way to get them to change is to change ourselves? And what if changing ourselves isn’t a guarantee that anyone else will change? Would it still be worth the trouble? continue…
How To Make Your Own Chocolates…with Stevia!
Chocolate. My friend. My best friend.
I like to eat chocolate pretty much everyday. One way or another, I find it. Or it finds me in the impulse buy section at the cash register at the grocery store.
In college, I almost ALWAYS had a small bag of semi-sweet chocolate chips in the freezer from which I would take a generous handful or two on a daily basis. One time my diet-conscious roommate asked me if I put them in the freezer so I wouldn’t eat too much at once. That might have originally been my strategy, but making chocolate ice cold in Florida only made it that much more enticing.
Chocolate makes me happy. Except when it makes me feel sluggish because I over-indulged. It’s a slippery slope. continue…
No Good Thought Is Wasted
It can be hard to believe that our thoughts have any impact on our lives, especially when things don’t seem to work out, even if we were thinking positively. So why bother? continue…
The BEST Peanut Butter You Can Buy
I LOVE peanut butter. Maybe it’s genetic. Or maybe it’s that peanut butter is amazing. Probably both. I might be addicted.
My Friend Peanut Butter
Over the past few years, I have become more conscious of the ingredient lists of products I buy at the store. I stated to take note that sugar and its companions were in a lot of the things I was buying, including peanut butter. Even some organic peanut butter.
I wasn’t all that upset over it. I considered peanut butter to be something of a treat and made the deal with myself that I would make an exception for this small joy.
Each day when I would make my yummy peanut butter banana smoothie, or take a spoon from the silverware drawer to transport a heaping scoop of peanut buttery goodness directly to my mouth, I thought: yeah, there’s some sugar in there, but it is so worth it!
I thought about it some more, and started considering that perhaps it really wasn’t all that worth it. After carefully comparing peanut butter jar labels, I made a new deal that I would give the kind of peanut butter that comes with a thick layer of oil on top and has to be refrigerated a try. continue…
Organize Something: Hall Closet Tidying
“Life truly begins only after you have put your house in order.” — Spark Joy by Marie Kondo
Getting “tidy” is major. Like life-changing major, as described in the book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo.
I have been busy. Who isn’t? But I have had tidy the upstairs hall closet on my backlog of tasks for…as long as we have lived in this house. Which isn’t insanely long, but almost two years.
Two years of I have to organize that upstairs hall closet bouncing around in my brain, stealing energy that I might free up to dedicate to more worthwhile pursuits like starting a garden, among other things I dream of.
This weekend, I finally decided to set my meditation timer for 20 minutes (this is how I motivate myself to do practically everything in my life), and start on the closet.
I knew all along that it wouldn’t take very long. I spent at least ten times as much time thinking about having to clean out this closet as it actually took to do it. But that’s ok. It’s done. Now my mind is saying I’m so glad the upstairs hall closet is organized! continue…