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Sometimes it can be painful to have dreams. It’s not all unicorns and rainbows. Sometimes things don’t work out on the timeline we would like, or it’s harder or takes longer than we thought it would.
I should know about the pain of following a dream. I have been chasing down the same one for YEARS. More than five. We’ll just leave it at that.
I’m still determined. I’m still here, and I guess I’m just not giving up on it. I just can’t. No matter what. I will not give up. Because it’s just too painful for me to give up.
I remember times when I would just cry at the reality I was facing: not having time to work towards my dream. Or when I cried even harder when I thought I had to give up because it just wasn’t working out. That’s how I knew giving up wasn’t an option for me.
Earlier this year I watched Rachel Hollis’ Made for More documentary. From watching that documentary, and also listening to her #1 New York Times Bestseller Girl, Wash Your Face, I gained a renewed faith in the possibility of one day my own dream coming true.
I distilled all her motivational talk down to the top five quotes that I wanted to look at in my house every day. I requested a chalkboard for Christmas and sometime in January I wrote these five quotes out and hung them up high in the center of our home, where I read them every day. Here they are!
Nobody is going to CARE about your dream as much as you do. Ever.
This was just about the most motivating thing I had ever heard in life. I have read a lot of self-help books but I had never heard this message before.
At the end of her Made for More documentary, Rachel Hollis is wearing a shirt that says “No one cares about your dream.”
First of all, I don’t really think anyone cares about my dream. I mean I know they don’t. Or at least not as much as I do. So this quote just fits me like a glove. But that’s not what she’s talking about.
This quote means, to me, that you are the one who is supposed to be doing the work towards your dream. If you have a dream, you go for it. You do it. Because no one else will.
They couldn’t do it for you, even if they wanted to. Which they don’t. I mean they just can’t. Not even your spouse, or your mom, or your best friend.
If you want to write a book, or start a business, or quit your job, or make any area of your life better, that’s on you. No one else…CARES. No one else can care. So you better care and figure it out for yourself.
And then show up day in and day out. Even when it sucks. Even when it’s frustrating and overwhelming and IMPOSSIBLE. Even then, you are the only person who cares whether or not your venture will succeed.
Everyone else is responsible for their own dream anyway. And whether or not they follow through on their plans is up to them. Just as whether or not you do is up to you.
Oh and also, if you lack the confidence to move your dream forward because you are worried about what other people (your family, people from high school you never talked to anyway, etc.) will think of you, there’s good news for you: NO ONE CARES anyway!
So you can just go for it and 100% they are barely going to notice what you are doing. This isn’t about them anyway. This is about you being your true self and going for it every day, now armed with the knowledge that people whose opinions you thought mattered so much are barely noticing because they have their own lives to be concerned about.
No one gets to tell you how big your dream can be.
The dreamer in me likes to think that it’s so easy. If she can do it, so can I. But then that little dreamer inside gets beaten down by daily life and everything there is to do that squishes any chance of making progress I had that day.
But there isn’t a limit to how far we can go. How successful we become. The fact is absolutely if she can do it so can I. It’s the lie that she is better than me that gets in the way.
No one gets to tell you how big your dream can be, including you. No matter how well-meaning the person who says well maybe just getting part of your dream is enough is, even if that person is you, there is still no limit to how far our dreams can take us. NO ONE gets to tell you HOW BIG your dream can be.
Your dreams are not someone else’s to manage.
This one super hits home for me. If something matters to you that it gets done, you better be the one who takes control. Life lesson.
There is so much to get done. And it can all feel like too much at times. But when it comes to your dream, you better make sure you are taking charge.
Other people are not equipped to take over our dreams. If you have a dream, you manage it. That doesn’t mean things can’t be delegated. But manage is the keyword here.
If something is your dream, no way should someone else be in charge. Let them manage their own dreams. You will manage your own.
This also means not letting someone else tell you what to do. If someone else is trying to tell you how to bring your dream into reality, or worse, that you shouldn’t bother, well it’s really not their job or business because it’s yours.
Your dream is worth fighting for.
This one seems obvious but then again there are those times when we are questioning everything. Sometimes you end up crying, wondering if it’s all worth it when nothing seems to be going anywhere. That is when this quote comes in handy.
Your dream has value. Your dream is worth fighting for. Isn’t that like the purpose of life? Aren’t we all here to share our unique gift(s) and if we aren’t then what is the point? And maybe that’s why it feels so painful to be on the brink of giving up, because you just know that you have something to share and you know it has value and could help others.
Well, that’s why it’s worth it. If it means that much to you, then it is worth fighting for.
If you want something that doesn’t exist, create it.
This is last on the list and the one with the biggest call to action factor. Another quote packed with multiple meanings.
There is the obvious, tangible something that doesn’t exist. Like, I haven’t found a planner that I love and I have a dream of creating my own. So there’s that.
But also, if you want your life to be different, your lifestyle. What you do on a daily basis. How you dress. How you look, how you feel. You create it.
You take 100% responsibility for your life. Step 1. You blame NO ONE. Because blaming others takes away your own power to change your life. Once you do these things, you are free to create the life you have envisioned.
Oh it might take A LOOOOONNNGG time, just look at me! Yes, there are 25 year old’s with ads on Instagram and YouTube about how they are making over $100k a month all from the comfort of their couch or luxury of a tropical, exotic beach. And it’s soooo easy for them!
Good for them! But that might just not be a reality for all of us. And that’s ok. We might have different dreams anyway. And different things to share and ways that we need to grow.
I hope these quotes have inspired you to take the next step towards your dream as they have helped me. It’s not easy having dreams. Maybe it’s easier to not have dreams and to be content with the way things are. I don’t know.
But I know that I feel most alive when I am believing in the possibilities of my dreams and working towards them. So I can’t quit. And I hope you are able to decide for yourself to keep going, because:
The world needs you. The world needs more dreamers. If anything is a sin, hiding your light is. If anything is a crime, it is not flying. — Reclaim Your Dreams by Jonathan Mead
So tell me, are you a dreamer? Is it hard sometimes?