I’m constantly working on monitoring my thoughts: trying to maintain focus on feeling as if I am already where I want to be, while fending off pesky thoughts of what I don’t want. Anyone who has ever tried to do this knows it is very challenging, but can be fun with the right approach.
The Importance of Feeling Good
You know the feeling: you had a tense conversation with a co-worker earlier that day (or week), or received a tense email, and can’t help yourself from replaying it and what you might have said or will say next time over and over in your mind. If asked, you might admit that more tense situations aren’t exactly what you want to experience, but, even so, continue to replay similar scenarios over and over in monkey mind format.
I was fortunate to pick up a copy of Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks last week. I first learned about Esther Hicks several years ago from a friend who was hooked on her YouTube videos. The Hicks’ teachings can be thought of as a prequel to “The Secret,” with a twist that I can only suspect most people today would find unbelievable. I honestly didn’t get it, and found it to be kind of “weird,” even though I am usually into that sort of thing. So I never really pursued the videos very far nor had I read any the Hicks’ many books.
The book starts out with an overview of how Esther Hicks got where she is. After reading, I kinda get it. I will leave it at that, because I understand that it is probably seen as uber weird, and I don’t want to seem like more of a weirdo than I already do! I recommend checking out one of their books or looking them up online to see for yourself.
Weirdness aside, the book is amazing! It is helping me to reel in any negative emotions at once, as soon as they start, because that is simply not what I want to create in my future (or present, for that matter). I haven’t finished the book, but I can safely say that the biggest lesson I have learned is that feeling good is the most important thing I can do.
I know that might seem selfish, but I don’t think so. By being a person who is highly focused on feeling good, you are able to help the people around you feel good, and are far more likely to help distant people feel good than if you were feeling bad, not to mention that feeling good is more likely to lead to choices that activate more positive situations for others as well. What could be selfish about that?
The Radio Station Metaphor
I have heard Wayne Dyer talk about being tuned in to the lifestyle of your dreams, as if it were a radio frequency. This concept is emphasized throughout the first part of Ask and It Is Given. Wayne Dyer says that what you want, the lifestyle you want to live, already exists; you just have to connect to, or tune in to it. Put yourself on the same frequency as what you want.
Let’s say you want to be a yoga teacher, but you say to yourself there are already so many yoga teachers, I couldn’t make money at it, and it isn’t a real job. On the other hand, you could say to yourself “look at her – she’s a yoga teacher, and she is successful, able to take care of herself, and thrive in her life. I can have that too.”
The second version is tuned in to the lifestyle that you envision for yourself. The first version? Not so much.
Recently while attempting to switch thoughts from things I don’t want to keep showing up in my life to things I do want, I started thinking about the radio metaphor more literally. I imagined that the people and situations associated with what I don’t want are on one radio station (like, a literal radio station), while the situations and experiences I want to see in my daily life are over at a different station.
When I start to notice my mind drifting to the radio station I don’t want, I make a conscious decision to hop over to my happy place radio station, telling myself that feeling the way I want to feel as if I am already there is my ticket to getting there (which I wholeheartedly believe).
That’s my new trick for switching thoughts. What do you think? Do you have any crafty ways to switch your thoughts from what you don’t want to what you do want? Please share your thoughts!