Today is the day many people return to work after the holidays. Today, I refuse to be overwhelmed.
I refuse to be overwhelmed by my multiple email inboxes, and any new task that comes my way. I refuse to be overwhelmed by requests from others, or the feeling that there isn’t enough time to get it all done.
Been there, done that, no thank you.
Today, I firmly choose to remain calm in the face of whatever drama I might come across. It is my choice, and no one can make me feel anything other than calm except me.
I simply refuse to entangle myself with any sense that everything isn’t going to be okay. I just can’t.
You Are Not the Only One
I cannot and will not be fooled into thinking that I am the only one who can do certain things. The only thing that fits the definition of “things only I can do” is to be me. Anything else, can be done by anyone else.
We were not meant to enslave ourselves to the demands of others to our own detriment. So, why?
Women particularly get caught in the mindset that somehow we are the only ones who can do…everything. That is a hard rut to climb out of. If you haven’t yet fallen into it, do yourself a favor and do everything in your power to ensure that you never allow this to happen to you. Saying yes to everyone guarantees that you are saying no to someone, and likely that someone is you.
Delegation was a foreign concept to me a few years ago. So was saying no. Learning even one of these skills is a step in the right direction; a balanced life is made up of a mix of the two. Even if you feel uncomfortable delegating something or saying no to someone, especially if it feels uncomfortable, do it anyway.
The sense of discomfort around doing something you have never done before is a good indication that it might be worth trying out. How can change ever occur if we only do the things that we feel comfortable doing? If you currently feel, or have ever felt overwhelmed in your life, get ready for some temporary discomfort. I promise it is much less painful than the emotional breakdown that being overwhelmed will inevitably lead to. And you might be surprised by the exhilarating realization that you can reclaim your time, piece by piece.
Gain More Calm
I attribute my deepened sense of calm to my morning yoga and meditation practice. Yoga makes me feel physically good all day, while meditation takes care of everything else. I find that I am much more emotionally stable throughout the day on days when I have meditated in the morning, and especially after consecutive days of meditation.
This sustained sense of calm took a really long time to develop. If you have never tried meditation before, I highly recommend it as a component of your exit strategy from any overwhelming situation. If you have tried meditation but haven’t developed a consistent practice, I would recommend prioritizing it as the most important thing you do all day.
In the past, I didn’t consider taking care of myself as my number one priority. I am not even sure it made the list after everything else I felt I needed to do in a day’s time. Putting my needs first, even before my to-do list, has also made me feel more grounded.
I recently discovered that I am the only one who can truly take care of myself. If I am not taking care of myself, I am very likely getting neglected – not so good for long-term health and well-being.
It puts everything into perspective when you put yourself first. You realize the petty problems out there are just that; temporary issues that will inevitably be resolved whether we internalize them or not. Neglecting self-care, however, can have long-term effects that stick around way after the drama of February 3rd, 2014 (for example).
So today, I choose to organize my life to feel the way I want to feel most of the time. Overwhelmed definitely does not fit that criteria. Who’s with me? Namaste!