“I am realistic – I expect miracles.” – Wayne Dyer
When I am trying to focus during meditation, I think of the word “in” as I breathe in, and “out” as I breathe out. This helps control my thoughts. Beyond the in/out mantra, I have experimented with other simple words to focus on to overcome the monkey mind during meditation. Today, I have a new one.
Expectations: The Good Kind
I recently watched Louise Hay’s movie You Can Heal Your Life. This movie renewed my awareness that everything good in life starts with feeling good. I have certainly heard this before, but was grateful for the reminder. Because I wasn’t walking through my days feeling good as my primary feeling.
I spend a lot of time thinking about getting to my dreams, but not a lot of time appreciating the present when it feels like they are forever away and might never happen. Consequently, I get discouraged and worried that I will never be good enough or do enough to get myself to where I want to be.
This is where I have gone wrong with affirmations. It is great to be able to write affirmations, but to actually feel them is what it is all about. I have a list of about 15 affirmations. Even if I read through these ten times a day, what matters more is feeling what it would feel like to already be there, in the place I am affirming to be. I haven’t been doing this.
The movie was a good reminder that it is in the place of feeling what you want as already being here where magic starts to happen. You just expect it. The complete opposite of worrying that it will never happen.
This is no easy task. It requires constant correction. That is how lasting change happens. My mind goes off the feel good track almost every time I breathe. Over time, the off the track times will begin to occur with decreasing frequency. Feeling good is a practice.
Today, Feel Good
This morning as I was doing yoga, I focused on how good it feels and how much I love yoga. Many days I have just started a yoga video because it is one of my goals to do yoga everyday, and because I know that it is good for me. But I have forgotten to actually feel good while practicing yoga. I was just going through the motions, thinking about a million other things, rather than taking that time to focus on how good it feels and how good it is for me. The essence of why I do yoga.
There are so many things I want to get done today, and this week. I have no idea if I will get through them all. Sometimes I think I have created unattainable goals, setting myself up for failure. And I know that I unnecessarily spend time worrying about how I will get it all done. Time that would be better spent simply feeling good.
Today, I still want to get all those things done. But I am starting from the place where they are already done. Even if I don’t get everything done today that I set out to, I intend to end the day feeling good about myself. As opposed to feeling defeated and beat down by my large to-do list.
I want to feel this way every night when I go to bed. I want to feel good all the time. I don’t want to just do things to get them over with anymore. I want to do them because I actually want to do them.
Today, I want to feel good. As I was meditating this morning, I inhaled the word “feel” and exhaled with “good”. When I am in front of the mirror in the bathroom today, I smile at myself and think “I feel good” and “I ACTUALLY feel good”. I feel it in my whole body. I even smile at myself, for real. A real smile.
We don’t have to force feeling good. It is already there inside of us, waiting for us to know. Bring it to the surface, and smile at the world. It is going to be a good day for feeling good.
What are you feeling good about today? Please share your thoughts below. Namaste.
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