“Don’t force it.” – one of my friends
In any given moment, we are faced with countless choices: what to wear, what to eat, what to drink, what to say, what to think, what to do… and on and on. Having a regular schedule and goals are great, but if something on the menu of choices doesn’t excite and energize, then it is time to find new options.
Do What Energizes You
I have recently been experimenting with choosing my next task based on what I am most excited in the moment to work on. For example, if my choices are to work on my blog, read a book, and wash the dog, I am trying to stop and think about which one I am most excited about working on/completing in the moment. Some days the idea of having a clean dog is the one that makes me feel most energized, while others it might be the idea of completing a blog post.
This is a much more fun way to live than in the “I have to” state of mind, as in, “I have to wash the dog” even though I want to lay down and read a book. Even better is when I can find some kind of creative compromise between the thing I have to do and the thing I want to do. Some days the idea of washing the dog while listening to an audio book sounds like the perfect plan.
I am starting to trust that things will get done in their own time, even without me forcing them to get done. If Shenanigans is as dirty as he has ever been, and I just can’t bring myself to give him a bath, I am learning to accept that this is not the right time and to wait one more day until I feel good about the task.
This approach is different than procrastination, at least in the negative sense of the word. Instead of beating myself up for not getting to things perfectly, I am working on allowing them to happen in their own time and feeling good about myself along the way.
Is it really an emergency?
In my voracious reading of self-help books over the years to help me cope with the external stresses of working, I have read countless times that there are very few true emergencies. This has always been a helpful reminder, especially when dealing with overly dramatized work situations that are nothing more than that: drama.
Whenever I get an email that has “ASAP” in all caps, I take a deep breathe and remind myself that whatever is being claimed to need to be done “ASAP” is not a real emergency. I cannot recall a single time in the history of all the emails I have fielded where “ASAP” was typed out that there was a true emergency. Just saying…
There is also plenty of advice out there to focus on prioritizing the important, non-urgent tasks, rather than allowing unimportant, seemingly urgent tasks to take up every moment of potential productivity in the day. Not everything is urgent. Whenever I see that little red exclamation mark flagging an email, I giggle to myself a little bit. I consider processing each email that comes to me as a high priority (during my pre-designated email processing times), if only to get my email inbox blissfully to zero.
Time To Re-evaluate Goals
I have recently been inspired by one of my favorite bloggers/vloggers (Organized Jen) to restructure how I interact with what to do next, and what I intend to get done in general, based on what feels right. I continue to strive to have a well-ordered home and life, but I am learning to be more patient with myself and the progress that is realistic to accomplish each day.
For example, I have decided to attempt to get on a Monday, Wednesday, and Friday posting schedule (in general) for this blog, at least for now. As much as I think posting everyday could be beneficial, I just haven’t been able to bring myself to consistently meet that goal. When that happens, it is time for a change in goals.
Speaking of reevaluating goals, my next seasonal review is right around the corner. I am looking forward to spending some time to review the winter and look forward to setting goals for the spring.
I also have a few other blogging projects I am working on, and I decided to move to a once weekly posting schedule (or less) for those. That is a frequency I feel I can manage at this point, and neither one really needs more attention than that right now. I have decided that posting once a week is better than never posting.
I want my blogs to be something I enjoy doing. I want my days to be something I enjoy doing. So rather than trying to force myself into doing things I don’t feel connected to, I am trusting that they will get done in their own time, and in the meantime I will stay in a more energetic and enthusiastic state of being.
How do you decide what to do next? Please share your thoughts below. Namaste.
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