Who is the one person in the world you are absolutely fascinated by? You look at their accomplishments with awe, and think that if you could only achieve a fraction of their success, you would be ecstatic.
When I set out to lose about ten pounds almost ten years ago, I chose Oprah. I have never met Oprah or corresponded with her on any personal level, but that didn’t stop me from mentally channeling her positive energy and sound advice in every single moment that I was tempted to eat a cookie or sleep in and skip the treadmill.
I read everything on the internet that she had written about weight loss, soaked up her whole philosophy about the emotional component of weight gain and weight loss, and followed her trainer’s (Bob Greene’s) weight loss plan, which they freely shared online, to the letter. I heard her voice in my mind every day as I battled all the messages from the world to buy a candy bar or eat yet another a piece of birthday cake at the office.
At the time, I didn’t think of her as a “mentor.” I always thought a mentor was a person who physically met with their mentee at regular intervals, providing advice, going out to lunch on occasion, maybe attending an awards ceremony of some sort. At least someone who provides direct correspondence via Skype, phone, or email. Right?
A Different Kind of Mentor
This morning I was noticing thoughts coming into my mind that I didn’t want, but I was struggling batting them away and thought about how nice it would be to have a person in my mind with advice that I could choose to focus on instead.
I decided it was worth a shot, and I made a list of the people who I currently admire as I work on my writing dream. Here is the list I came up with:
- Emily Giffin
- Sarah Dessen
- Meg Cabot
- Jennifer Weiner
- Jennifer Ross
- Tina Su
- Kate Northrup
- Tara Stiles
- Anita Moorjani
These are women who have turning doing what they love into what they do. I felt particularly drawn towards Anita Moorjani, author of Dying To Be Me, due to her incredibly spiritual approach to life. I decided to close my eyes and meditate for a few minutes on who I would like to have as my guide.
I am currently reading Loving Yourself to Greater Health by Louise Hay, Ahlea Khadro, and Heather Dane. I thought of the book while my eyes were closed and started thinking about Louise Hay. Louise Hay is quite the accomplished, spiritual lady. She is currently 88 years old, has overcome cancer, and founded a leading self-help publishing house (Hay House) without even a high school diploma.
I have only read one other book by Louise Hay so far (You Can Heal Your Life), but I hope to eventually make my way through the rest. As I am currently reading a book by her, it suddenly clicked that Louise Hay would be my mentor. In my mind, that is.
As much as I would love to meet Louise someday, that is not a requirement for me to have her as a mentor. All I need to do is call her and her wonderful words of love up in my mind, and she is there with me, guiding me about what to think next as I choose to let go of the lower level energy thoughts when they come up.
Choosing Your Own Mentor
If you don’t already have a mentor but would like one, you can do this too! Here are a few quick steps to follow as you choose your very own mentor:
1. Identify your major dream or goal.
Ideally your mentor will have some familiarity with the subject, or, even better, has already achieved wild success in the area of your dreams. You want this person to be able to motivate you by example; if they can do it, so can you.
2. Make a list of your mentor candidates.
This probably won’t be too hard if you are already obsessed with your goal or dream and are a fan of a variety of people in that area or industry. If your dream is new, these could be people you already admire. They don’t have to be famous or well-known, and you can always switch mentors down the road. Pretty sure they will be okay with it 🙂
3. Meditate on the best mentor for you at this time.
Even if you aren’t familiar with meditation, it’s okay to close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, contemplating which person you want to have in your mind to keep you on track. Be open, as this person might not be on your list (as was the case for me). The person you choose today might not makes sense a week or three months from now, and that’s okay.
I have never called a person in my life my mentor. While I value the idea of traditional mentors, I thought it would be fun to share my abstract yet still potentially powerful take on the mentor concept.
Do you have a mentor who has helped you achieve your goals and dreams? Or, if you tried this, who is your new mental mentor? Please share your thoughts!