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Book Nook Review of Forgiveness by Iyanla Vanzant

“Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

I hadn’t thought of forgiveness as an essential component of moving forward until I read Forgiveness by Iyanla Vanzant. Since I selected this book to read, I have been hearing about the importance of forgiveness from other authors concurrent with my reading.

Iyanla Vanzant calls us to recognize all the places in our lives that we need to bring forgiveness to, beginning with ourselves. The book is intended to be worked in exercises to be completed during 30 to 60 minutes on each of 21 days. The work of each day focuses on extending forgiveness to practically every type of relationship we could possibly have.

Each chapter starts out with a “forgiveness story” written by either Iyanla Vanzant or a guest writer. These stories provide personal examples from the writers’ own lives, describing how they came to realize their need to forgive others who they had spent energy resenting. Following each chapter’s forgiveness story are the forgiveness exercises.

The forgiveness exercises begin with a forgiveness prayer, followed by an exercise of writing personalized forgiveness statements tailored to the individual reader’s unique forgiveness needs in their own relationships, all leading up to the tapping sequences. Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT, or tapping)  can be thought of as acupuncture sans-needles, according to Vanzant. The idea in this case is to tap (with your fingers) on specific meridian points to clear out blocked energy attributed to negative thoughts born of unforgiveness. continue…

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Letting Go of the Bad Stuff and Welcoming in the Good Stuff

“When is he and all of his energy going to vacate the crevices of my mind? The answer came the day I heard my mind respond ‘When you can see the good that came from your relationship and how it prepared you for where you are today.'” – written by Almasi Wilcots in Forgiveness by Iyanla Vanzant

I always thought forgiveness was one of those things you do because you are “supposed to”; because it is the right thing to do. I am now learning that it is not only a good thing to do for oneself, it is an absolutely essential prerequisite to experiencing real healing and transformation. continue…

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I Should…I Mean I Choose

“Communicating in ‘have-to’s’ and ‘shoulds’ are ineffective self-leadership.” – The Now Habit by Neil Fiore, Ph.D.

I should do yoga. I should have gotten up earlier. I shouldn’t have said that, or done that. I should read more. I should do more. I should be a better person.

Does anyone else talk to themselves in shoulds as much as I do? I am willing to bet I am not alone in the should department. As I am writing, I am even trying to restrain myself from either thinking or typing the word should on auto-pilot. continue…

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How to Deal with Negativity from Others

“The love I invest in my relationships returns to me multiplied many times over.” – Alan Cohen

Sometimes when I am meditating, a negative thought or two will sneak into my mind. The majority of the time, I am able to send these little unpleasantries out of my realm of consciousness, and continue to enjoy my blissfully undisturbed twenty minutes of me time. But what about the other 23 hours and 40 minutes of the day? continue…

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Am I Doing Positive Thinking Right?

“The way ahead is clear and free. I give myself permission to move out of the past with gratitude into a joyous new day.” – Louise L. Hay

After listening to Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life audiobook the other day, I decided to do an experiment. I wanted to see if there were any immediate physical effects I could feel from thinking negative versus positive thoughts. What I discovered actually had nothing to do with what I was looking for, but was pretty eye-opening! continue…

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